Will we adopt again?

Benny will help me find the right new family member

Benny will help me find the right new family member

Everyone is asking me if I will get another dog now that we lost Kirby.

It was very sudden with Kirby, just as the loss of Coco was within a week.

Benny and Kirby - good brothers

Benny and Kirby – good brothers

At that time I got a call to come consult as a dog trainer with a dog that had been returned several times to the rescue and was deemed unadoptable.

As you all know, that dog was Benny. When I met Benny I just knew he had the Love Dog in him and why should I fix him for anyone else? Kirby and I had to have him.

Benny watched over Kirby has last few days

Benny watched over Kirby has last few days

But it is different now. Benny is a more challenging dog in many ways still. He is super attached to me and is now for the first time enjoying being a solo dog in the house.

He went through so many illnesses and surgeries with Kirby, they bonded greatly.

And Benny knows that this time his brother being away is permanent .

Benny has changed in the past few weeks.

Benny is resting and sleeping in Kirby's bed

Benny is resting and sleeping in Kirby’s bed

I debate every day if waiting too long to bring another dog into the family would be a mistake. Would Benny become too accustomed to being the only dog?

Or should I give Benny the time to mature and understand his new place in the family fabric and then introduce a new dog?

There will never be another Kirby - I have to be open to new dogs

There will never be another Kirby – I have to be open to new dogs

I have already received numerous emails and photos of dogs that people think would be appropriate for our family. I did go see one dog, but did not have that undeniable feeling that we had to have her.

I have to rely on instinct and my knowledge with dogs to choose the right one for both Benny and myself.

For now it's Benny and me ... but we're thinking about it!

For now it’s Benny and me … but we’re thinking about it!

I want to find a dog that can be a Love Dog and learn the skills required. So that dog has to have the natural traits I look for as well…the love of all people, the direct eye contract we appreciate, the desire to be held and cuddled, the understanding that he/she is not top dog in the house, and the “it” factor that tells me You’re the One!

So while I originally thought our next dog would be a young female poodle, who knows? We may surprise everyone by introducing an older gentleman again! Or a dog with three legs or a dog shaved due to neglect or a dog that is blind or a dog found on the street!

And it might not even be a poodle even though we are known as poodle people!

But when we meet him or her we will know.

We will just know.